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Most people will go their whole lives quietly editing their desires down to whatever their friends, partners, or family feel like doing that day. They’ll skip concerts they’d love, classes they dream about, and whole hobbies, just because no one else is available or interested.

I’m seeing more and more neurodivergent people quietly opt out of that script. They’re going to events alone, booking the ticket without asking permission, and learning that the fun is coming from them, not from whether someone else shows up.

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to become that person: the one who can sit at dinner alone next to a couple on their anniversary, go to a concert solo and dance anyway, or book the thing even when nobody else is free. Not from fake “confidence,” but from a deep, built sense of self.

In this short episode, I get into:

• How many people silently abandon their desires because a friend can’t go or a partner “isn’t into it”

• Why our dependence on others’ availability and validation is so normalised

• What it actually takes (internally) to go to dinner, a concert, or an event alone and genuinely enjoy it

• How solo experiences build self-belief, independence, and the ability to walk into any space self-assured

• Tiny, low-pressure ways to start: solo coffee, a quiet weekday cinema trip, sitting down to eat alone instead of just grabbing and running

• How this practice spills over into the rest of your life: meetings, friendships, boundaries, self-trust

We’re systematically gaslit about reality in a way that makes it feel like we’re insane or defective. While an actually sick society pats itself on the back for being “well-adjusted”. In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to wake up to the fact that you’re surrounded by a narcissistic system that needs you to be the problem.

I unpack how neurotypicals are rewarded for fitting seamlessly into a sick world, how neurodivergent people get cast as the scapegoats, and why “learning social skills” often just means learning how to be fake enough to survive.

What I get into in this episode:

• Why neurodivergents are often the most honest, objective people in the room — and get punished for it

• How society mirrors a narcissistic family system (narcissist, enablers, golden child, scapegoat)

• The role neurodivergent people are pushed into: permanent scapegoat, wherever we go

• The example of Wicked and why so many stories end with the scapegoat disappearing, not being vindicated

• The question that haunts me: If the whole system is sick, is there any way to “fit” without losing yourself?

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"Be strong"
"Get over it"
"Stay positive"

These phrases are plastered across social media, slipped into conversations, and weaponised as personal mantras.
But has repression ever truly freed anyone?
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I’ve opted out — not from love,
but from the performative game we were all taught to play.

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“We’re moving on!”
Nope, that’s denial.

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